Creating Stability During COVID-19

These are uncertain and surreal times. And now, more than ever, we need each other.

This is our time to step up and practice compassion for ourselves and others. Uncertainty usually brings up a lot of feelings, and it’s okay to feel them all. 

You have permission to feel shitty, relieved, anxious, resentful, angry, joyful, confused...whatever you’re feeling.

Some of you have lost your jobs, others are attempting to work from home while homeschooling your kiddos simultaneously, and still others are showing up for work every day. There are, without a doubt, additional stressors to contend with. I’ll be the first to tell you that I’m not a big fan of the new normal, and I’m typically the weirdo who gets a jolt of excitement at the thought of change. It also feels so trite to offer these words in such a surreal time. Nevertheless…

So, what can you do today to feel a little more stable during this time? 

Feel the feelings. 

Really. Feel sad, confused, angry, resentful, relieved, whatever you’re feeling. It’s okay to feel more than one feeling at a time, even if they’re otherwise on opposite ends of the spectrum. You may be financially fearful and relieved to have time off from work. I know it’s a little strange to hold both of these feelings simultaneously.

The takeaway here is that your feelings are valid. You do not have to sugarcoat what is happening in your life.

Name the feeling and feel it.  This great phenomenon of release usually happens when lean into the uncomfortable. 

Determine what you can do for others:

Are you available or able to help others? Maybe you can run errands for an older adult in your community. Perhaps you can donate money. Or, you can hold a streaming music fest, blog, vlog, keep friends updated with the latest online resources, or post funny memes. 

Determine what you can do for yourself: 

Maybe you're more inclined to create an action plan or stick to your as regular as possible routine and schedule. This may also be when you want to learn a new hobby, soul-search, or research new job opportunities. All in all, self-compassion and self-kindness go a long way here. 

Take care of yourself: 

Self-care looks different to everyone. There’s no one-stop shopping for this one. This might be taking a nap, working in the garden, or walking in a non-populated area.  

We’re also social creatures who crave connection with others. Consider using FaceTime, Skype, Facebook Messenger Video, or Google Hangout Video with a friend or two.

If you need help, ask.

There are resources available for people in need.

In the words of Mr. Rogers, “Look for the helpers.” 

If you’re feeling drained mentally and emotionally, most therapists are set up to provide treatment via video platforms and by phone. Although it may not be ideal, it can be helpful. 

The takeaway is that we’re doing the best we can right now, and that’s all we can do. We’re in this together, and we’re all making sacrifices and being inconvenienced on some level. The good news is that our current situation will eventually end.